How to Sext: Beginner's Guide for Dirty Sexting
Whether you have done it before or are looking to get into it, sexting is a great activity with a partner when you both are in the mood. Sexting works so well between partners because you can be separated and still have a little dirty fun and you can extend the sexting session over multiple hours, days, or even weeks. So, if you are looking to up your game or just to figure out how to start sexting, take the following sexting advice as gold in your digital hands and dirty mind.
How to Start Sexting with Your Partner
Creativity isn't the only answer to sexting mastery. You don't have to be Shakespeare to master the art of the wicked tough in texts. The main focus is on honesty, openness, and fun. You can check out some sexting messages and dirty texts to send to your boyfriend/girlfriend online for some reference. Before we start, remember that a sexting session doesn't have to be based in reality. You can live out your wildest imagination and desires. So, enjoy the fun and don't take it to seriously; leave that to the physical bedroom.
Sexting Needs to be Consensual
Just like any other sexual advance or innuendo, sexting must be consensual. There is no substitute to equal enjoyment and consensual pleasure. Always make sure your texting partner is okay with the situation. If you don't know, it is simple enough to ask. It can be awkward, but the benefits are well worth the simple question. Once you know your sexting advances are welcome you can start.
Start with How You Are Feeling
Use the sage advice "slow and steady wins the race" when you are approaching sexting. This doesn't mean you don't text for hours. It means you advance the topics in the sexting one at a time.
Start out with the easy stuff. Text your partner how you feel. Examples could be simple things like "I miss your body" or "I thought about that kiss last night all day". Make your partner understand where your mind is. This mental sexuality is highly erotic and highly effective to get your partner in the same head space. It can also guide the rest of the event and lead to moving the fun from the digital to the real.
Move into What You Are Thinking of Doing
The next stage is to mention and daydream about what specific things you would like to do. Don't be general. Don't say "I want to kiss you again." That is boring and general. Instead talk about specific and detailed past things you want to repeat or future things you'd like to do. "I want to have a repeat session of that grind last night." "I've been dreaming of the moment I can tease those cloths off you."
It's important to note that as you are talking through specific things, don't jump to the climax. This is akin ruining a joke or the end of a movie. Tease your partner with the foreplay and move into the more hardcore as the talk progresses.
Make your Thoughts and Desires into a Story
A great way to meld all of the action desires into a coherent thought is to make a story out of it. Stories are amazingly effective and fun because both partners can participate in the development of the place, times, events, and any other detail. Let the story naturally flow and evolve. Don't have a preconceived notion of how it will end or where it will go.
The amazing thing about sexting and creating a story as part of the fun is that it can evolve beyond the bounds of your restrictions. You could take a trip to Asia or the Moon to have a romp in the bed. You could move into the past or future. If you aren't that creative, you can just as easily stay in reality and have just as much erotic excitement.
Advance the Story with Pictures of Places and Things
Once you and your partner have fully engulfed your minds and fantasies in the sexting session, you could make it more exciting with images. Besides words sexting can easily include items and scenes. Send a photo of a banana or a chair. Include a piece of clothing or something sticky in the image.
With photos of places and things you can let your creativity grow. They can relate to the words in the sexting, like a kid's picture book, except it's an adult adventure between the sheets. If you are stuck in the plot of the story, a photo is a great way to change the direction and introduce a change. Stuck in the mud naked? Shoot a photo of a hose and ask your partner about cleaning off in the wet water. Alternatively, you can shoot a photo of a horse or car and ask about what they would do if this rolled by.
Include Non-Nude Photos
If you are looking to spice up the conversation with something more personal, you can easily start out with non-nude photos. It's important to distinguish non-nude from nude photos because there may be social norms that limit your nudes, or your partner might not be comfortable with it, yet. That is okay!
Non-nudes to send could be smiles, winks, poses on stuff, saucy photos of your mouth, hands, fingers, or clothed body parts. These are also an excellent addition because you can easily take these photos in public with no one really knowing that you are using for a sexting adventure.
Once Comfortable, the Sky is the Limit
At this point, you should both be very comfortable during the sext chat with each other. If you have taken it slow then you may instinctively know how far to take it. Because you can always take it further, make sure your partner is ready for each step. The final step is to start incorporating personal NSFW images into the mix. These nude shots are fun, exciting, and a great addition to the conversation. You can pose, edit, alter, the photos before sending them and then recreate them in person.
Always make sure you end with making it a date night. You don't need to recreate the sexting session, but you should always make sure you satisfy your digital fun with some physical release.